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name: Sayed Hamzah Bin Sayed Ali Alhabshe age: 18 loves: Allah, My family, and my closest friends in C200, as well as my TP aikido family! hates:backstabbers, liars, dumpers!!! links DINA ALINA KAK DIYANA FIZA [ACCION] Nuruddin[C200] Nicole TP T&F GITA [Intro to Japanese Classmate] TP Aikido Siau Tian Hime-sama KRIS TP AIKIDO NAFEES WEN QIANG Aini Leslie SP Aikido Jasmine Karen Haikel Sebastian NCC RSM NCC Sabiruna Rasyiqah FARHANA PRSS speak urr mind
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hey guys. not gonna talk much today. just found an interesting article online. From: Love Coach, Kloudiia TayDate: June 27, 2008 Dear Seeker Of Love, I'm certain that you would like to have a great love life and enjoy every moment of it. If you see older couples who have been together with each other most of their lives, you might wonder what makes their relationship so special that allows them to hang on to each other. Beyond the hype about being able to do 'speed dating' and 'compatibility testing' or 'seduction', it's about time to get down to the real nuts and bolts of Relationship Mastery. First of all, allow me to explain how I turned myself into a Love Specialist. I'd been fascinated by relationships all my life, and largely because I was truly a failure at my own relationships in general. I didn't really like mixing around, and later on suffered the consequences. While all my friends were dating, I'd been in a hole, hoping that someone would come along. When that person did come, the relationship wasn't really all that I had in mind. I was living in a fantasy world, where a prince charming comes to marry the princess. I'm sure many women might long for that. And the men? Well, you'd be raring to go if you could sweep a beautiful girl off her feet, wouldn't you? It was a typical romantic notion that everyone has been trained to do. The trouble is this: TV shows never show you the reality behind love and relationships. And boy was I surprised when I first found out... love wasn't all that it was cut out to be! After my first failed relationship, I wanted to believe in love again. It was so tough. And I believe you understand the way I feel. I didn't know what went wrong, and I could hardly even think straight. I was much more intimidated by the fact that I was no longer getting younger. Many of my friends started getting married. Then reality hit me one day when someone very close to me got a divorce even though they had been happily married just a couple of years ago. I sat down and listened to the horror stories of relationships gone bad, and it shook my romantic beliefs to the core. I not only became more skeptical, I was more adamant that there would be no one out there for me. I even heard stories from many male friends as well that they were jaded by relationships. They had started to believe that women were unreasonable, that they were too possessive... you know, the common things in a relationship. I couldn't help but compare those who had poor relationships versus those who were getting into fantastic and fulfilling relationships. Hey... I know it sounds like I turned into a skeptic. But the truth is almost everyone can predict the cycle of relationships. I saw it with my own eyes, observing my friends and my clients. The Relationship Cycle Stage 1: "Romancing" Stage Nobody complains at this stage. The initial attraction is great, the feeling is wonderful, and it feels just like how it's supposed to be like on TV! Stage 2: The Realisation Stage This is the point where you get a little shocked by certain tendencies. You find them offensive, but you don't do anything... yet. Stage 3: The Tolerance Stage This is the point where you start to tolerate each other, and do what is required to fit in. But the trouble starts in the next stage. Stage 4: The Cracking Stage You begin to tell the other person why they must change. You think you can make the other person better, and you might even feel that the other person has not been listening and paying attention to you. The fact is... nobody can change simply because of what you say. Even psychotherapists take hours upon hours in order to bring about some change in their patients. What makes you think you're trained to do the same? Stage 5: The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side Stage You begin to find that it's easier to start off with Stage 1. You go back to your initial ways, looking at other people. You pay close attention to others, and pay closer attention to your dreams. Ahem. Wake Up. Stage 6: The Break Up And Reunification... and break up Funny how this always happens. People want to break, enjoy their freedom, then get back together again. This could go on forever, but it's like taking several rides in the same faulty Ferris wheel of love. Boring. Predictable. Painful. Stage 7: Skepticism Ah, finally, you break, thinking the whole world is to blame or that there's something wrong with you, and then you start to build up your defenses. There's nobody right for you, and there's nothing you can do about it. You lick your wounds, then decide you'll never fall for a jerk/jerkette again. Sound familiar? Well it did to me, then it hit me like a ton of bricks... Did you make these mistakes in your relationship? Communicating: Do you know why learning most forms of communication doesn't make a difference between the two sexes? Mind Reading: Are you aware that as a man, when she wants you to read her mind, there's a much bigger implication than just being psychic? Touching your partner: Did you know that touching is just one of the ways that only 10% of the population responds to? Nagging: Are you aware that nagging doesn't really produce the kind of effect you thought it would? Presenting A Gift: Would you be surprised if you knew that only certain gifts are perceived as valuable to a person? Buying socks for your man isn't a sign of love, and getting her chocolates could get you a tongue lashing. Shopping: Why do men shop faster than women? Do you roll your eyes when he's at the electronics store? When she's looking at clothes? The Cold War: Do you stop talking to your partner? In a special music experiment people did, the assumptions made by people were totally wrong when there was no communication. Emotional Expression: Are you expressing emotions without effect? That the more you speak, the less he listens? When your temper blows, are you aware of the effect it has on her? Many more mistakes you have to uncover in order for your relationship blueprint to get reconfigured. that's about it. if you wanna read the whole thing, http://www.luvlifecoach.com/seminars/long.htm haiz. the damage given to a girl is much more than a guy's. then if the girl is hurt by the guy, the guy gets it. but if the guy gets hurt by the girl, does the guy even dare to say that he's hurt? after all he went through just to break the girl's heart... that's what i'm facing now... and i wonder, am i doing it right this time? but if it turns from bad to worse, i'm prepared to face the consequences..
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